Sunday, 9 June 2013

Sedatephobia - the fear of silence

Growing up I was never able to put my feelings into words. Good feelings, bad feelings, being afraid, being sad or lonely, I could never express it to anyone. It left me with the eerie feeling of watching my life from the outside, where I couldn't do anything to change what happens to me.

After a while I started to write. At about the same time as other teenage girls started trying to keep diaries with doodle filled margins, brimming with 'secrets' and initials in marker hearts. The only difference is that I didn't stop when the other teenage girls abandoned writing, 'Mrs Timberlake', for real boyfriends. I guess writing gave me something different.

For someone who was never able to speak, writing came like a safe haven. I would fill pages, my waves breaking on the shore. Putting pen to paper allowed me to empty the thoughts spinning maddeningly around my head between neat lines, where they were somehow more understandable, less overwhelming. Pages slurred with the anger of being different. Pages stained with the loneliness of being ignored. Pages scarred with the pain of struggling against my own mind.

I grew up of course, but so did my writing. Nothing changed, everything changed. I learned to channel myself into writing better. I learned to cry in words. 

It was finding myself and losing myself in the same breath. It is the sweetest escape and a gilded cage. It still remains the moon in my sky, a glowing orb lighting the inky blackness of my confusion.


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